Its an interesting life when your life is the only life you have.
I've been making lots of plans recently and it has become crystal clear that I only have one life at the moment, there may be more after this one is complete, but right here right now I only have one.
You may hear people or even yourself refer to different parts of your life as my business life or my married life or my parenting life.
Im expanding and recreating my business at the moment and I am constantly reminded how I try to keep things separate, whilst trying desperately to hold it all together and balance everything. I have been working from home for a few years, so having clients come into my home is sometimes confronting. Is the livingroom tidy? What are the girls doing? I hope they stay quiet. I hope they don't make a noise when they leave or arrive or bang the door. I am confronted by two of my lives clashing. Now I'm expanding and moving out of home to work and I'm worried that the girls are ok, that they are being parented adequately and holistically, that they are fed and listened to and validated and taken care of. Its a big thing having multiple lives.
Then a few days ago in a meeting with a friend and an advisor, a mate of mine said something quite profound. All the things we do and all the things we are, are all a part of our one life. We don't have separate ones, we just have this one.
"Of course" I assumed, but then this last week it has occurred to me that I live my one life like I have mutiple lives to attend to. I find myself rushing from one life to another and none of them are ever in integrity.
I am first and foremost a woman, then mother, then in no particular order comes massager, healer, lover, friend, soul searcher. I am a doer of things,a creator of ideas, possibilities and bliss, and its all the same life.
That's an exciting life. I am so blessed.
So I invite you to consider that this one life you have at present is the one we need to concentrate on. Have it all work for you at the same time.
How do we do that? I hear you ask, well, we plan it, we diarise it.
If I use my diary for appointments for my clients, then I will also use it to slot times for my children, their appointments I need to be at, our chill time, our favourite tv shows we watch together, and even dinner appointments together to share about their days and their lives.
It sounds simple but it also sounds tedious and strategic to diarise times for your children. But when you are someone who is busy and needs to make money to feed and care for us all....... it works it, it just does. And if you diarise it, you will make it happen.
So I invite you to diarise everything you can think of, especially the things you say you never have time for like dinner together, sex, movies even massage.
I promise, even if you pick one of those things, you will feel so free and honoured and in integrity, especially if you choose massage hehehe.
Seriously though, I hear you say" I can't diarise sex, it takes the spark and the romance out of our relationship"..... Well so does not having sex at all...... I rest my case.
Another way of looking at it, is to diarise "time together" Sometimes its not the sex we need its the connection, the touch, the intimacy of sharing not just what happened today but how I'm feeling or what I'm dealing with...
Please just try it, I'm sure your partner will appreciate it.....a lot. And for those of us who don't have a partner, have a bubble bath,or meditate or just spend time with you or book that massage you have been meaning to have forthelast few months. Its imperative. DO IT NOW!!!!
Pleeeeaasee let me know how you go, id love to hear how its working for you... Or not!
And I will do the same.
Kelley xxx
Oh and if you don't have a diary, buy one or use your phone
